Pamela’s Blog
The Illuminated Rumi
Translations by Coleman Barks, Illuminations by Michael Green There are many translations of Rumi and various books of his poetry available, all superb, but this is my favorite edition. It’s a hardcover, with lovely images for reflection upon Rumi’s poetic wisdom and...
The Gift, Poems By Hafiz
The Great Sufi Master, Translations by Daniel Ladinsky Hafiz, 1320-1389, was a spiritual student and Sufi, thoroughly in love with God and people. Embracing joy and humor, his poetry exudes profound wisdom and simple advice. “Sad people have all built a shrine to the...
Leaves of Grass, by Walt Whitman
Read Leaves of Grass because it is a treasure of a book. It will make you feel like you’re falling in love, with life, and with yourself. Endorsed by Ralph Waldo Emerson on the first page, he says he has “joy in reading it,” that is ”fortifying and encouraging.”...
Venting
Venting is a form of verbal purgatory. So are envy, resentment, jealousy, and ruminating regret. All are forms of wishing, which create our own chaotic internal dust storms. Get out of your hamster-wheel head & into your Self, your essence, via your body, through...
Getting Through An Affair: Important First Steps in Deciding What Matters
Many couples cannot weather the repercussions after betrayal. Yet some can. What makes them different? What will ever help you to move past your deep hurt, into a happy relationship with your spouse or loved one again? In this brief article, I cannot offer in-depth...
Your Dreams Matter: Unravel the Messages from these Nightly Film-shorts
Dreams are like personal messages that a close, well-knowing friend brings to you nightly. They visit, speaking another language, as if saying, “At your service! Here’s the coded info!” telling their creative tales in riddles. Why ignore them? You can’t remember...
Transform the Way You Eat & Live: Mindful, Intuitive, Fun Eating
Food can be fun! We eat 3–5 times a day, meet friends and colleagues for meals, and celebrate with food. Why should food be something you’re afraid of, have mixed emotions about, or even battle with? You may have a long history with dieting, bingeing, or shame...
Parental Codependency: Your Path to Freedom When Your Child is an Addict
Perhaps you’re already reading Al-Anon material, or going to a group. Maybe you have a sponsor or mentor. Both are helpful. From personal experience, I’ll share a few of the most crucial things I’ve learned here, having been in the trenches with two sons who became...
Become Comfortable With Discomfort, in 4 Uncomfortable Steps!
What do you do with your uncomfortable feelings? Do you stuff them (“I’m not upset anymore!”), deny them (“I’m fine”), avoid them (“I don’t feel anything”), or discount them (“I don’t care”)? Ahh, and you think they’re gone!? What really happens to our feelings...
Healthy Detachment From Our Young Adults: 6 Ways to Love From a Distance
How do you prepare your 17-21 year old to become a successful young adult? Here are 6 ideas on changing how you love and parent, being present yet detached: Envision what it will look like, specifically, for you! Not just for your young adult. You’ll be more….what? ...
Mindfulness From Dawn ‘til Dusk: Guarding your Contentment in 7 Steps
1) Start your day awake and alive in the bed, mindfully being IN your body, feeling your skin, the warmth, the awakening process, the air around you, looking out the window, noticing yourself awaken, NOT jumping to what you have to do in the next hour or later in the...
When Living Feels Harder Than Dying: 4 Things to Remember when Pushing Past Trauma
When you have been in a horrible accident, incurred a debilitating injury, are coming out of a sexually abusive relationship, or any other traumatic situation, please know that there is hope from within. You’re not alone. You probably already have a small tribe of...
Inviting the New Normal: 5 Tools for Restarting When Your Life has Drastically Changed
Have you recently divorced, moved, begun a new job, children are in college or married now, and you are starting over in many ways? Perhaps you’ve been injured and are trying to see yourself differently, into & through recovery. How do you restart? Let go of the...
Gone. When a Family Member Has Died: Moving Through your Grief
Nothing is so devastating as losing a child. Up there in difficulty is the passing of a spouse or dear parent. If someone you love has recently died, you have come undone. Yet already know to allow the stages of grief into your experience. You’ll be dulled by shock,...
Breathe Away Anxiety – In Disciplined Steps
“Be at one with your in-breath and your out-breath. Be fully alive, fully present in the here and the now. This is a miracle that you can perform at any time.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh~ Hard work & bravery. Have you had an anxiety disorder since you were a child, or...
5 Ways to Move Past the Hurt: Betrayal & Disappointment in Relationships
1) Feelings. Get to the bottom of your emotions, and speak your truth about what really hurt. Then go underneath that. Then go deeper, what hurt about that? Peel off the layers of your pain like an onion, and talk with your partner about the very core of what is...
Only Date People Who Are Available – Emotionally and Actually
It starts with this: do you want a relationship? A real relationship, where two of you are getting your needs met, giving back and forth, intimately involved with solely one other person? Yes? Ok. With merely one other person, or two? If you only want to be with one...
B.O.A.R.
Be strong like a boar. Maintain Your Composure During Stress: The B.O.A.R Technique Don’t lose it. Be strong like a boar! We often get triggered by circumstances or people, and not only don’t understand why, but don’t know what to do. Yet we want...
A Week of Yes!
Yes#1: Remember. Remembering your stuff saves you time. Double check every time you go somewhere. Minutes & hours are lost when you’ve forgotten your phone or computer, etc., and have to drive back home or to the office. Say yes every time you leave one...
Passion & Balance: Developing our Underdeveloped Selves
When we seek deeper fulfillment in life, wanting answers to is how we can attain more balance and passion, it helps to understand both where we usually put most of our energy & skill what is strongly developed in ourselves and where we are lacking proficiency,...