By Patrick Carnes, Ph.D.

~ This is the classic resource on “trauma bonds” the chains of trust that unhealthily link you to a loved one who is dangerous, abusive, exploitive or toxic.  The person can be a husband, a child, a parent, a boss, a professor.  I try to guide clients into awareness and recovery so they can leave or refuse to participate in a trauma bond.  Here you will learn about betrayal, codependency, and the triangle of shame that keeps two people together out of fear and love addiction.  Healing and hope are possible when we find compassion for ourselves within, then take action.  Start with awareness about the mind-numbing fears of abandonment you have felt, then get the support you need if this is your issue.